If I had a dollar for every time I was an asshole to myself, thinking it would help me get my shit together, I could pay off the national debt!

We think that being anything but kind and gentle will finally do the trick. Get us in line and make us change.

Few things wreak havoc like striving for perfection. It will waste your time and energy, and rob you of productivity, self-esteem and creative juices.

I’ve been an emotional eater since I was ten. I remember exactly when it started. I was in fourth grade and I broke my leg jumping off the stage in my school’s gym. I had a cast up to my groin for four weeks. And I was a very active kid. I loved to ride my bike, play with my friends, go to the park, the pool, and all the other usual kiddo activities.

There is a tale of a rabbi named Rabbi Zusya. Zusya was a timid man, a man who lived a humble life.One day Rabbi Zusya stood before his congregation and said, “When I die and have to present myself before the celestial tribunal, they will not ask me, Zusya why were you not Moses? Because I would say Moses was a prophet and I am not.

I was scrolling Facebook, minding my own business when I read, “Ultra-independence is a trauma response.”

This stopped me in my tracks and I reread it a few more times.

Our brains love to tell us that what we’re doing isn’t enough or won’t be enough. That we have to make big sweeping changes to get the results we want. It’ll tell you, you have to do all the things right now in order to declutter the house, lose the weight, heal the relationship, or get out of debt.

Grab a beverage cuz this is a long-ish story.

I take Zoloft for anxiety and have for 15+ years. It takes the super sharp edges of life and softens them.

I’ve found a good combo of exercise, no caffeine, life coaching, and Zoloft, that works for me.

I used to think taking Zoloft was “cheating” somehow. Like I wasn’t trying hard enough. Sometimes that thought still creeps in. The stigma around mental health medications still exists.

There is a tale of a rabbi named Rabbi Zusya.

Zusya was a timid man, a man who lived a humble life.

One day Rabbi Zusya stood before his congregation and said,…

A feeling is just a sensation in your body. No more, no less. It’s just like a wave on the beach. It only lasts about 90 seconds if we allow it and don’t resist it. It will generally have a name like anxiety, sadness, fear, grief, joy, or excitement. It will often have a location, temperature, speed, weight, texture, and, color.