Trouble making decisions?
One of the first questions I encourage my clients to begin asking themselves is, “Do you like your reasons?”
It can apply to everything.
And can help you make decisions.
Whether to start something.
Or stop something.
If you’re on the fence just ask yourself, “Do I like my reasons?”
Do you like your reasons for:
* going to the gym
* passing on the cupcake
* saying yes to the invite
* not creating the boundary
* continuing to do the thing long after you stopped enjoying it
* getting botox
* ignoring your wants and needs
* not asking for the raise
* having another glass of wine
* buying everything in your online cart
* keep scrolling on your phone
* having the tummy tuck, boob job, or frequent facial peels
* finishing off the pint or more of ice cream
Please hear me, I am not judging or shaming and of these actions!
Not for one second. How do you think I came up with this list?
I’ve done many of them or have worked with amazing humans who have.
The important thing I want you to take away from this is to ask yourself if you like your reason for doing them.
If you like the reason and it feels good to your spirit, keep at it, you do you boo!
If not, take time to shine some awareness on why you’re doing it, what you’d rather do, and what’s one tiny kitten step you can take to go in that direction?
If you’re kicking your ass at the gym because you hate how your body looks and feels, what’s an activity that you enjoy that doesn’t feel punishing?
If you’re passing on the cupcake because you’re not allowing yourself to eat anything “bad,” or you think you won’t stop at one, it’s time for support (coaching or therapy to unpack and give compassion to that part of you.)
If you’re ignoring your wants and needs because you’re too busy taking care of everyone else around you, here’s your reminder that you’re important too and you’re no on this planet to be someone’s servant or fixer.
Are you getting a tummy tuck, boob job, or botox because you think it’ll make you more appealing in the dating scene or feel better about yourself?
Sweet, sweetpea…, that work can only happen from the inside and I know you are capable of doing the work and coming out the other side stronger than before!
Are you staying glued to your phone or eating to numb yourself from things you’re scared to look at? Acknowledge that. Start there.
I don’t care what the activity or belief is.
Ask yourself if you like your reason. Does it feel good to your spirit?
If not, be honest with yourself and take a kitten step in the direction you want to go.
You got this, Sunshine and I’ve always got your back!
