Trying to do it all yourself
I spent 3 hours Saturday morning trying to figure out how to get my new email delivery platform to “talk to” my website.
Some small things I was able to figure out, but by the end of the 3 hours I was literally in tears telling Sully that I feel so stupid and that it shouldn’t be this difficult for a smart woman to figure out how to do this.
I went upstairs, ugly cried in my bathroom for a few minutes, put my workout clothes on and hopped on the elliptical for 25 minutes to get the frustrated energy moving through my body and to clear my mind.
I listened to a “business-y” podcast that I really like which was helpful because being a solopreneur can be lonely at times. I LOVE running my own businesses and wouldn’t trade the freedom for anything, AND it’s really awesome to hear other women business owners who are in a similar boat and how they navigate it.
You see, I “had the time” to work on this project and I got a lot of it done, yay me.
But the tech side of things is way out of my wheelhouse to put it mildly!
Not only is it not my wheelhouse, it’s not on the same ship, or even in the same ocean!
Plenty of other things are in said wheelhouse, but that category is not.
And as I was climbing the stairs with tears and snot rolling down my face, I threw in the towel.
I realized I did as much as I could on my own and I would GLADLY call in reinforcements for the rest.
And it’ll probably take said reinforcements 20 minutes once they have my login deets.
Could I figure it out on my own?
Eventually, sure.
But at what price?
How many hours would it take?
How much emotional regulation and soothing would it take in order to muscle through to get to the other side? How many tears do I need to shed? How long do I want to sit in a shitty diaper spinning my wheels and getting one millimeter?
That is a terrible return on investment!
That’s the thing with trying to do everything ourselves.
We have to ask if it’s worth it.
Sometimes it totally is. I’m not suggesting we give up at the first sign of a challenge or obstacle.
Often we have to go through what Sully calls “productive struggle,” because new things are, well, new, and it takes time to learn them and figure ‘em out.
My gut was telling me it was time and so I emailed one of my business pros and it felt REALLY GOOD!
We aren’t meant to do life alone even though society tells women we suck if we can’t do all the things for all the people all the time.
Screw that!
If there’s something that has you in tears privately or publicly, it’s probably time to ask for help.
Find someone who can take it off your plate or guide you through the process.
You aren’t alone and you aren’t broken when you want help!
I’ve always got your back, Sunshine!
