Don’t let exception bias keep you stuck!

Biases are one way our brains conserve energy in case you need it for a saber-toothed tiger.

Our primitive brains will never know what year it is so we need to keep reminding them and using our prefrontal cortex when making most of our decisions.

Our brains would prefer we don’t go all rogue and willy nilly thinking about and trying new things.

Nope, they’d like it if you'd keep doing what you’ve been doing, no matter the consequences or how you feel, thankyouverymuch!

And one tricky, sneaky, and honestly brilliant way our brains keep us from veering from our very well-worn patterns (even when they’re painful and keep us stuck and miserable) is by employing the exception bias.

Everyone else is happy, except me.

Everyone gets to take a vacation, except me.

Everyone else can make changes in their lives, except me.

Everyone else gets to enjoy a cocktail or cupcake except me.

Everyone else is able to get out of debt except me.

Everyone else seems able to say no, except me.

Everyone else is enjoying their kids and summer except me.

See when your brain pulls this BS on you, you just want to give up, not try again, think you’re broken or a piece of crap or a loser, think buying the thing you saw in your feed will fix you, believe that nip or tuck is the answer to low self-confidence.

And so then you don’t keep taking the next small kitten step to move forward to real change.

You stay stuck, which keeps you where you are, which equals safety to the primitive part of your brain because it’s only trying to keep you alive from one day to the next.

This is the f*cking hill I will die on!

I will not shut up about how our brains work and when we just use some simple tweaks with compassion, we can get to where we want to go!

Will it be neat, clean, tidy, easy, a 24/7 party?

Nope and if you’ve been sold that bill of goods, throw it in the f*cking trash cuz it’s a lie that’ll keep you stuck!

If you work with me will you have a compassionate guide on your journey that isn’t going to let you believe your brain’s BS. I’ll ask non-judgmental questions to collect data. I’ll cheer you on like a dog who’s happy to see their owner. We’ll laugh and you’ll feel lighter after our time together.

And if you’re willing to put in a little work (1-3 minutes here and there) and be open to looking at something a little different, you can get where you want to go.

That’s the truth and there’s science to back it up.

It’s called neuroplasticity, meaning the brain is wired to and 100% capable of change!

It’s actually made to do the thing your primitive brain is telling you it’s not capable of doing!

You got this, Sunshine and I’ve always got your back!

Don’t let exception bias keep you in a place or space where you’re not thriving!

I’m not ok with that, not on my watch!