Finally put the weight down

How heavy is it?

How crushing is it to carry around every day?

How much do you let it make you feel like shit?

Then add on the shame and blame and you have a few semitrucks on your back and on your mind.

“It” could be debt, unopened mail, closets full of stuff you don’t use, your people-pleasing habits, resentment that you’re carrying the mental load of keeping your family running *and* doing most stuff around the house, or that often-present feeling created by the Industrial Revolution of, “I’m not doing enough.” Yuck…

I invite you to consider the *possibility* that there’s another way.

I invite you to noodle around on the thought that because you created the current situation, that you can also create a different and better one. (Why not?! You sure as shit can!)

Not overnight, but I pinky promise and swear on an armful of pizza boxes that you can, for 2 science-backed reasons.

Reason 1: neuroplasticity. Your brain is designed to change. Nothing has to stay as it currently is unless you consciously or subconsciously choose to keep it that way. You weren’t born with your current thoughts, patterns, and behaviors. You learned them over time which means you can learn different ones! 

How fucking awesome is that?! 

Answer, really fucking awesome! Because it means we’re not ever truly stuck! You can take one kitten step in the direction you want to go, proving to your brain that you won’t die, and then take another kitten step. 

That’s all that’s ever required. “Just keep swimming, just keep swimming…”

I say this sentence to myself and outloud whenever I feel overwhelmed, when I don’t know how something’s going to turn out, when I feel like I’m not making much headway, etc.

It allows me to pause, gives me a sec to remind myself it’s not a crisis, and take 3 deep breaths with very long exhales which calms my fight or flight response.

And then do the next right thing.

Reason 2 that there’s a different way and that you can do it: slow and steady-ish is the only speed you need and the only one that works.

I don’t suggest making 180* changes because they’re too much for our nervous system. Our systems are like feral cats. They need to be approached slowly and gently.

When we take the route of “go big or go home,” we’re setting ourselves up for disappointment and working *against* how our brains naturally operate.

They need to see if something is safe before they’ll continue. And making big sweeping changes screams DANGER, DANGER and is the fastest thing you can do to sabotage yourself.

I’ve been in 10's of thousands of dollars in credit card debt, twice.

I’ve done debt consolidation, twice.

I’ve ignored bills and gotten past due fees.

I’ve had closets and drawers full of stuff I didn’t use.

I’ve employed all the people-pleasing tactics to try to get people to like and love me.

And I’ve felt resentment towards my wife even though I didn’t ask for help or tell her I was overwhelmed. (Can’t she see my exhaustion or hear my passive-aggressive sighs of frustration?! LOL)

I totally get it.

I’ve totally done it.

Until I decided I was tired of feeling and living that way and decided taking a small step in another direction *had* to be better than the path I was on.

I believe in you!I have zero doubts that you can make changes because of the above 2 science-based reasons.

Please don’t let shame and blame keep you stuck!

And when you want some personalized support and cheerleading (picture a super excited Labrador Retriever), I am your gal!

Message me, email me jenn@jennbaron.com, text or call, 317-413-0174.

You deserve better, and it’s 100% within reach! 

You got this, Sunshine and I’ve always got your back!