Life is hard. What are you going to do about it?

Life isn’t hard because you’re doing it wrong.

It’s hard for every human on the planet regardless of what you see on someone’s social media.

Everyone loses someone, has to wait for biopsy results, wonders how they’ll pay for the broken washing machine, has to decide to keep or let go of a toxic friendship, or figure out where their career is going next.

Whoever started the lie that it’s *supposed to be easy* should be forced to watch “Baby Shark” until they cry for mercy.

When you believe consciously or unconsciously that life should be easy, you create a sh*t sandwich for yourself.

The bread of the sandwich is the event.

The unexpected job change, the toxic friend you had to break up with to save your self-respect, the boundary you had to put in place in order to keep from strangling your MIL.

When your brain goes to the place of, “I shouldn’t have to do X, this isn’t fair, this is hard…,” you’re arguing with reality and adding more suffering to your life and another layer of sh*t on your sandwich.

So now you have the bread and spoiled stinky meat.

THEN you try to solve the impossible “problem” of, “Why did this happen or why are they doing this to me or what did I do that I have to deal with this?!”

You just added a layer of green, fuzzy rotten mayo to your sandwich.

Our brains LOVE to solve problems and they will create problems where there aren’t any in order to have something to do.

Rude, I know, but when you know what they’re up to, you can be aware of it, not fall for its shenanigans, move through it quicker, and quit adding layers to the sandwich.

I’ll post something on social media and a precious human will say, “That’s really hard to do…”

Yep, it is, because life is hard.

With all due love and respect, who said it shouldn’t be hard?

Being in relationships with other humans is hard because we all have our own unique baggage and experiences.

Big, scary changes are hard because brains don’t like uncertainty.

Speaking up for yourself is hard when you’re used to going along to get along. 

Doing something new rewires your brain and that takes energy. It would prefer you saved said energy in case a saber-toothed tiger jumps out and you have to run.

A more useful and true option the next time life is lifey is to think/say, “Ok, I didn’t expect this and yes, it sucks a$$, what’s one small step I can take to get me where I want to go?”

This train of thought is way more powerful and empowering than, “This is hard, why is this happening, I don’t know what to do…”

The energies of those two statements are completely different.

The latter will keep you sitting in a dirty diaper and adding to your sh*t sandwich.

The former acknowledges the suck, but doesn’t keep you stuck in it.

I’m not suggesting you throw glitter and rainbows on a tough curveball or that you act like everything’s fine when it isn’t. 

That’s never my M.O.

I’m suggesting you become aware of which camp your brain is in and take a kitten step to tweak your trajectory if you don’t like it.

You got this, Sunshine and I’ve always got your back!